What Proof Do I Need Prove Infidelity? Can a Private Investigator Help?

If you suspect your significant other isn’t being faithful, it’s probably a good idea to investigate the matter before approaching him or her. But how exactly should you proceed?


The main question you need to ask yourself is whether you can investigate your partner by yourself or if you need to solicit the help of a professional private investigator.


Hiring a private investigator for infidelity matters will definitely give you peace of mind at the end of the process. When an investigator conducts spousal surveillance and reports to you at the conclusion of the case, you’ll have a pretty rock solid idea if adultery, if married, or cheating, if unmarried, has been taking place.


Signs of infidelity are everyone. You just need to know where to look and how to gather the evidence you’ll need in advance of divorce proceedings, or perhaps marriage counseling to give your relationship issues one last try before calling it quits.

Signs of Infidelity

If your partner is cheating, there will be warning signs. You may not want to see them, but they will be there if you’re paying attention.


Particularly if the relationship is several years old and you and your partner know each other very well, there will be telltale signs in their behavior, their sexual drive, their clothing choices and many more.

Digital Evidence

In today’s modern age, there’s no better place to look for suspected infidelity than on a person’s cellular telephone. Between call logs, text messages and website history, a phone is a wealth of information.


If your spouse isn’t willing to share his or her phone with you, this should cause all sorts of bells and whistles to go off in your head. If you’re in a committed relationship, there should be no secrets, particularly large, possibly life-altering ones.


You might also consider joining an on-line dating site or forum, particularly if you suspect your spouse is finding “action” this way. Use a fake name and photo and start a conversation, then see where it leads.


As with physical evidence, document all digital information that you’re able to track down, either via cell phone or via on-line activity.


Your private investigator, and later your divorce lawyer, will thank you!

Eyewitness Testimony

The third way of documenting suspected adultery in your marriage is simply by asking around. Do you and your spouse have mutual friends? Are you close with any of his or her co-workers? What about the neighbors?


If any hanky panky is going on, it’s a safe bet that someone has seen something at some time. They may be hesitant to talk to you about it, but if you ask them directly, they might be willing to confess what they’ve witnessed.

Hiring a Private Investigator for Infidelity

Once you have a pretty good idea that extramarital affairs are occurring in your relationship, it might be time to hire a professional private investigator to help you prove infidelity.


Hiring a private investigator for infidelity is a big step, but one that spouses all throughout the United States have taken for years in order to confirm their suspicions of adultery and extramarital affairs.


If you’ve seen signs of infidelity and cheating, but you need a second set of eyes, hiring a private investigator who specializes in such matters is the next logical step in the process.

What Can a Private Investigator Do?

Private investigators from coast to coast earn good livings simply by conducting spousal surveillance and confirming the existence, or absence, of cheating and adultery.


Private investigators can follow your spouse day and night and record what they’ve seen, as well as the when and, most importantly, the who.


He’ll take photos and videos, log site information and present everything to you in a detailed final report that is also admissible in court. And speaking of court, your investigator can also testify on your behalf when the time comes.

Pros and Cons of Hiring a Private Investigator

The pros of hiring a private investigator are many, including the ones mentioned in the previous section. Investigators are highly skilled in conducting surveillance investigations and, at the end of the day, your report will be highly detailed and thorough.


As for the cons, there are really only a couple. Private investigators aren’t free, so you do have to keep in mind that you’ll be paying for their services. This could also arouse suspicion if your spouse keeps an eye on your financial accounts.


Another con is that you’ll be putting yourself out there if you hire a private investigator. All information is kept confidential, of course, but there is a chance your spouse could catch wind of something going on.


If for some reason, you’re wrong and he or she isn’t in fact cheating, this could cause some additional problems in your already strained relationship.

How to Choose the Right Private Investigator

If you’ve decided to hire a private investigator to look into matters on your behalf, you want to be sure you’re hiring someone who is reputable and professional.


Ask for personal referrals, read on-line reviews, research the company with the local Chamber of Commerce and/or Better Business Bureau and meet with investigators in person to see who it is that you’re most comfortable working with.


Most private investigators are above board and will provide you with quality services. But there are a few bad apples out there, so just be wary of this and do your homework before signing a contract with your private investigator of choice.